Hello my gorgeous black and brown Goddesses! I hope everyone has had a great week thus far. The weekend is approaching and I want you to make sure you take time out for yourself and relax. If it is only five minutes of sitting in a quiet space with no noise, please reward yourself with that moment and do it. So today is a transparent moment because I want you to know I am just like you. I've had good days and bad days. I've caused myself pain and I've allowed others to cause me pain. One of the main reasons I started this blog is because I really want to see us (black and brown girls) get along authentically. I want us to encourage each other, love each other unconditionally, and be happy for each other. It is time to take judgement out of the equation! We are all fighting a battle or have fought a battle that we have overcome. But as soon as you see the next person fighting a battle here comes, "she better than me", "couldn't be me", "I would have left him/her a long time ago". I could go on but y'all know the phrases and we are all guilty of it. The thing is there are a generation of young ladies coming up under us and they need to see a better representation of the black woman. Yes my beautiful Goddesses we are out here owning businesses, stocks, homes, taking trips, simply dominating the world. But let me ask you this, how many of you are doing it with pure intentions and a clean heart? Are you humble in the position that you are in? When you smile in the face of another woman and congratulate her on her win are you truly happy for her or do you roll your eyes as soon as she turns her back? Now that you have the tools of how to come out on the other side of abuse or the struggle, are you praying for the next woman who is going through? Are you standing next to her and encouraging her or showing her ways to elevate above? Instead are you drifting in the shadows laughing, downing her character to the next person? If you find yourself on the negative side of yes then my love it is time for you to look yourself in the mirror and be real with your true character, forgive yourself and make some adjustments. If you find yourself on the positive side of yes then pat yourself on the back and continue to walk that walk baby! See sometimes we don't even realize when we are being negative, bitter, jealous, messy, petty, or down right evil to the next woman and there are little girls looking up to us. These young ladies are growing up and modeling our very own behavior to their friends and/or associates. This is how the cycle continues. Let's break the cycle here today. Let's get to a point where we can trust each other. We need to be able to rely on one another. When you see your sister down lift her up without judgement. Stop looking at other women's problems as a topic of conversation to compensate for the void you have going on in your life. Sometimes the hurtful or negative things we as black and brown women do to each other forces a wall to go
up towards one another. This is how we end up divided. I am guilty of this myself. Growing up black girls gave me hell. I was talked down upon because of the way I talked, my weight, my hair, because my parents wanted more for me. This eventually made me feel some way towards black girls. Yes I had friends but there was a wall and there has always been a wall up even in my life now. Everyday I battle with breaking down that wall and being vulnerable in the state of trusting a black woman. There was a time I was being abused and the black women around me laughed, they mocked me, and they whispered (so they thought). I have forgiving those who have hurt me. One thing about it is my heart is so full of love for them no matter what and I am able to be authentically happy for them no matter what. Which is why I know we can all as a whole love each other and be happy for each other and encourage one another. My mind sees a change and God says to me, "if you can see it than it is possible". We are stronger together and weaker when divided. Just know you don't have to agree with everything a person does but you can accept them for who they are. It is time for us to change the narrative. It is time for us to be one again like it was when our ancestors were here. It is time to show the generation coming up behind us what sister unity is. It is going to take time and dedication but I know we got this! Please don't forget to respond, give feedback, and come back to see what's new. As always remember to #BEEE (Beautiful, Encouraged, Enlightened, & Empowered).
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